Chon and his wife standing on a deck in a rural, residential setting.
credit: Chon Gotti

Engagement and marriage are not what everyone thinks they are. It’s not about waking up early every morning to make breakfast and eat together. It’s not about cuddling in bed together until both of you peacefully fall asleep. And it’s not about maintaining a clean home or preparing homemade meals every day.

I learned the hard way that romantic partnership — engagement, marriage, whatever you want to call it — means that someone is going to steal the covers and elbow you in the face while you try to sleep. It means that you will eventually exchange harsh words, and harsher silence. Honestly, you might wonder if you’ve made the right decision.

Despite all those things, marriage is the one thing you look forward to every day.

It’s coming home to the same person that you know loves and cares about you, every day. It’s laughing together about the one time you accidentally did something stupid.

Marriage is sitting down together at 10 p.m. to eat the cheapest and easiest meal you can make because you both had a crazy day. It’s when you have an emotional breakdown and your partner holds you and tells you everything is going to be okay. And you believe them.

Engagement is about still loving someone even though they make you insane. Living with the person you love leads to fights about absolutely nothing. But it also means having a love that people spend their whole life looking for.

Marriage is never perfect. It’s a difficult give and take. But it’s amazing and comforting and the best thing you’ll ever experience.

At the end of a long, hard day, true love is simply saying, “Honey, my life partner, I will always love you.”

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